What are you saying about your marriage? (Pt.1)

(Married Life Series)

When a couple gets married there is a part of the ceremony that involves the exchanging of rings. These little bands of silver or gold serve as visible evidence that the couple has entered into a covenant relationship before God and with one another. 

A ring placed on the third finger of the left hand indicates that you are no longer a single, unmarried person. The ring’s placement declares that you are now in a covenant relationship. 

However, the ring does not hold any type of magical powers to ward off people who pose a potential threat to the sanctity of your marriage. There was once a time, in generations past, that the wedding ring’s presence seemed to have carried a stronger moral significance than it does today, but it certainly did not eliminate inappropriate relationships from taking place; that is because the presence of the wedding band is not necessarily to communicate to others that you are in a covenant relationship, but more accurately it is to serve as a daily reminder to you of the vows and commitments you made before God and your spouse. 

The problem with a ring is that it can be removed or concealed, they can be lost, become too small, and in many workplaces they are not allowed to be worn for safety reasons. So, if that tiny reminder is not there around your finger, how in the world will people know that you are married?

So, today we want to speak about the importance of projecting in your marriage. Projecting is to present or promote a particular view or image. If we were to ask people you work with, your family, or closest friends to describe for us their perspective of your level of satisfaction in your marriage or the level of satisfaction you have with your spouse; what would they say? What are you saying about your marriage? Sometimes we are saying a lot more than we think we are!

Diamond rings and wedding bands can communicate that you are in a marriage relationship, but only you can communicate the level of commitment you have to that marriage and you can be certain of three things: what you speak says a lot, what you fail to speak says a lot, and what and who you give your attention to says a lot. 

What if the life or death of your marriage depended upon what you said about it? 

“Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”-Proverbs 18:11

What you have to say about your marriage can have a tremendous influence over your satisfaction level and commitment to your marriage. Words are like seeds being sown in a field. The seed you sow determines the harvest you get:

“Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or else make the tree bad and its fruit bad; for a tree is know by its fruit. Brood of vipers! How can you , being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings for evil things.”-Matthew 12:33-35

Not only is a tree known by it’s fruit, so is a marriage! The fruitfulness of our marriage is seen in our words! So, how do we increase our satisfaction level and communicate our commitment? By heeding Ephesians 4:29:

“Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.”

Pastor Scott Burr

Dayspring Community Church