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Tuesday, November 1, 2011

“Sacred Marriage-Building a Servant’s Heart”

(part 1 of 2)

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus; who being in the very nature God, did not consider equality with God, something to be grasped, but made Himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.”
Philippians 2:3-7

Many of you have likely heard this passage of scripture before, but I wonder how often we consider it within the context of marriage. Ideas like… being a servant, looking to the interests of others and doing nothing out of selfish ambition are all honorable pursuits that Christians ought to emulate, but there is a very evident disconnect of these ideas in many marriages.

These concepts are viewed by most as a “good” rule of faith when we are at church, at work or in public settings, however many feel that when we get home, alone with our spouse, these expectations of us ought to cease…so that we can have our “me” time.

Marriage, however, was not designed for our personal gratification. In fact, marriage could easily be defined as- the giving up of one’s self. When we marry, we automatically divest ourselves of the idea of “self”:

“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman, for she was taken out of man.”
Genesis 2:23

The idea of two becoming one is not that one is absorbed into the other, but rather they are united together. In some marriages the dreams, desires and needs of one spouse are swallowed up by the other’s with little to no consideration given to this spouses’ needs. This type of behavior in a relationship can have a two-fold negative affect. First it can cause resentment to set in with the spouse that is feeling short-changed, but also if left unaddressed it can cause the offending spouse to become self-absorbed further alienating themselves from their mate.


Let me be the first to say that God did not bring Eve to Adam to cater to Adam’s every whim and desire! He brought Eve to Adam so that the two of them together could bring glory to God’s Name by helping one another according to His will.





(This marriage series was developed from principles taken from the book “Sacred Marriage” by author Gary Thomas.)


Pastor Scott Burr
http://faithandworshipseries.blogspot.com

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